Something From Nothing: Creating A Sacred Home Anywhere You Are
by Stephanie Perkinson
Less than a year ago I was living in a 900 square foot, 2 bedroom apartment with my two growing boys and my fiancé. It was cozy; we had everything we needed at the time and it definitely felt as homey as possible, but all of us were dying to spread out a little bit more. If I'm honest, I wanted to spread out a lot. I had this vision board with a little note all folded up and pinned next to some pretty pictures, bits and bobs that represented where I wanted to go next. Inside that little note was a list of all the hopes I had for our future home. Where it would be, how it would feel and how we would live in it. For 3 years, it was daily work to not feel resentful of that little home nestled in a big apartment complex. Yet, I found balance and direction when I worked with intention in that space, harnessing the dormant energy in the walls and objects around us.
It has been six months since we have moved on from that apartment complex. I look around today and our new space embodies most of what could be found on that list. It's almost unbelievable and I still find myself squealing with delight over our home by the ocean that we worked so hard to get. I am truly grateful to my core and in love with where we are now, but this isn't a story about now.
This is a story from many yesterdays ago. When I found myself divorced and scared about what the future would hold. For the better part of a year we had been nomads. First living with my parents, then house sitting for a few months and then moving once more and spending another month with a friend while we waited for our apartment to be ready. Our first little apartment could not have been cuter. Tiny kitchen, small bedrooms for everyone, a mini dishwasher and petite fridge, even a little gas fireplace. It was enchanting. I remember every box I carried up the stairs. I submerged myself in the readying for our new life. As I unpacked boxes I could see how much less we had than we did before. It felt so good to see some of my prized possession be unearthed from their storage containers. I hadn't seen them in so long. I had only what I truly loved and needed. It felt so freeing as I had let go of so much in my divorce. It hurt too much to bring a lot with me. I felt like all those dreams and hopes for a life that never was had soaked into the wooden spoons and the kitchen table. The hurting and the fighting could be felt in every crease of that leather couch and chair. It all stayed behind. There was no place for that in my new life I was dedicated to living.
I specifically remember one weekend after I had just put the finishing touches on my children's rooms. I flopped down on the rug out exhaustion and burst into tears. They were not tears of sadness but ones of utter joy. It meant so much to me to finally have a home of our own. A place we could begin to feel settled. It was about about wanting more and getting it. Releasing and untethering. Discovering what could be. Swirling around what's stagnant and creating magic instead. It's not easy, but it's worth it.
I have lived in many different places. There have been many different seasons of my life. Making a home anywhere has always been a deep passion of mine. “Something out of nothing,” as my grandmother would say. Textures, patterns, objects and colors melting into one another to help unearth your essence. The essence of those who inhabit the space alongside you. Allowing what lies between walls to morph as your tastes and needs change. Every room as an opportunity to manifest your gorgeous intentions.
Stephanie Perkinson is a certified holistic health & lifestyle coach and owner of Wellness by Design. She teaches women how to live “in-season” by introducing them to the magic that each earth-phase holds. She gently guides her clients back to balance on their plates, in their bodies and around their homes. She believes that with loving support, every body can find it's way home and become deeply rooted wherever it may be. You can follow Stephanie on Instagram here.