Guru Mitar Kaur: Selfless Service
How do you start your day?
BREATHWORK: Deeply connecting with my breath each morning while still in bed. As I feel myself awakening from sleep, I begin noticing my breath and the rising and falling of my navel. As I inhale I silently sing, “Rising, rising, rising.” As I exhale I silently sing, “Falling falling falling.” I continue with this breath meditation for about 3 minutes. It is the very first thing I do when I wake up and the last thing I do before falling asleep.
TONGUE SCRAPING: It is an Ayurvedic practice that I fell in love with, and is now one of my morning “must do’s”. I make sure to massage the back of the tongue, making myself gag, which bring up the mucus. There are two packets in the throat called “monkey glands,” which gather the toxins from the body. I’m always amazed how much crap rises to the surface overnight.
WARM LEMON WATER: I enjoy a glass of warm lemon water on an empty stomach every morning, to prompt the flushing of my digestive system and get ready for a healthy morning poop. Yes, I mention poop because it is so important to our health and wellness!
SIT ON THE TOILET: Even if I don’t have to go poop, I still sit. While studying in India, my breathwork teacher took my pulse, looked me in the eyes and said, “You are constipated, no good!” He told me to sit on the toilet, first thing every morning, even if I don’t have to go, and stay for 5 minutes. “Keep doing it, train your body,” he told me. I still use this secret to this day. The key to a healthy bowel movement is consistency. Sitting on the toilet first thing every day, as strange as that sounds, really works to keep me regular. Give it a try, you’ll thank me later for sharing my pooping secrets.
What do you do when you are overwhelmed or stressed?
I drop down and do 54 repetitions of Frog Pose, a Kundlaini Yoga pose that gets me very connected to my breath, to my heart, and my creative juices. I also go right to my deep breathing meditation, hands on my belly silently singing, “Rising, rising, rising. Falling, falling, falling”. My daily morning and night breath routine helps prepare me for these moments. Breathing centers me into the core of who I am, a powerful loving soul with creative ideas, and helps me get past the feeling of being overwhelmed or stressed.
What gives you the feeling of true bliss within?
Seva – Selfless service. How appropriately timed, I just got in touch with how truly powerful giving is last week. I’ve been doing the same selfless service for 12 years and I love it. I teach Yoga within the Federal Prison system. However, last week I almost talked myself out of it, since it takes me 1 hour and 45 minutes to get there, (darn rush hour traffic in LA!). Last week while making the journey, I decided it was time to let the class go. My ego said, “You need to take care of yourself”. I convinced myself that since I already teach on Tuesday afternoons (with less traffic), it’s not necessary to go on Wednesday too. I planned to find another teacher to guide the class on Wednesday. Then I went into the prison and about halfway through class the bliss of Seva hit. Pure bliss watching these men give it their everything. I felt amazing and the guys felt amazing! Words cannot describe the blissful power and joy of Seva. I had a little talk with my ego on the way home, and we will be continuing to serve others on both Tuesday and Wednesday. I also love the bliss of Sound Healing—I can sit in my living room and play for hours. As I play the gong, I feel the vibrations go through every cell of my being, it’s like I’m vibrating with the universe. When I shift over to the Quartz Crystal bowls, it's as though it penetrates into my being, encapsulating my mind with its harmonious sound. Connecting with the power of sound energy is a truly magical and blissful experience. I highly recommend it!
What are you currently reading?
I’m reading (and listening) to a few books. I recently lost my grandma and nephew, and am finding healing and sanity with the book and 2 CD set, Graceful Passages: A Companion for Living and Dying by Michael Stillwatter and Cary Malkin. I’m also reading Trauma to Dharma by Azita Nahai, This Is Your Brain on Music: The Science of a Human Obsession by Daniel Levitin, and the empowering and inspiring Fierce Grace Collective by Carrie-Anne Moss.
What are you listening to right now?
“Jai Te Gang” Mantra Recorded by Charanpal on the Jala Album Release Negativity and Cut Through Karma. It’s a long mantra, however so so powerful cutting down the demons of the mind and body. Khag khand bihandan khal dal khandan at ran mandan bar bandan Bhuj dandh akhandan tej parchandan jot amandan bhaan prabhan Sukh santaa karnang durman darning kilbikh harnang as sarnang Jai jai jag kaaran srist ubaaran mam pratipaaran jai tegang
What does nourishment look like to you?
Sinking down into a warm tub filled with Dead Sea Salt, Essential Oils, my rubber duckies, and my favorite rubber frog. As the bath water drains away I finish with a little song, the salt pulls any negativity, anything that does not serve me, and washes it down the drain.
How do you make space for play?
I schedule it. I love to work, which means I must schedule playtime. I also rely on a little help from my sweetheart, who repeatedly reminds me that just because I love what I do doesn’t mean I can do it all the time.
What are some favorite mantras you cling to?
“I am the light of my soul, I am bountiful, I am beautiful, I am blissful I am I am.” “I am who I am, I love who I am, just as I am.” “I Can and I Will!” “I got this!”
Please share some words of wisdom you've learned over the years.
All is happening in the divine order. You will have good days and you will have bad days, it’s what makes up this wonderful thing called life. Love yourself no matter what! You’ve always been doing the best you can and you’ve never done anything wrong. Really own that. I'm sure there are things from your past you would do differently today, but that is only because you have new information. Forgive yourself and forgive others for their crazy moments. This is the key to living in peace. Live each day with curiosity and love. Feel what you need to feel. Let yourself be mad, angry, happy, sad, frustrated. These are all good feelings, just feel them and let them be. Don’t try and be happy every moment of every day. Be happy when you are happy, be sad when you are sad, pissed when you are pissed, etc. Keep the learnings you gain in the moments of feeling what you felt, and let the rest go. Remember it is ok to say no sometimes.
Guru Mitar has her Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology and is certified in Hatha and Kundalini yoga as well as Reiki healing. She also has extensive training in Meditation, Breathwork, and Sound Healing techniques. She infuses all she has learned into her classes, encouraging students to move beyond their comfort zone into the transformative zone, where real change happens. She empowers her students to listen within and follow the voice of love. She has dedicated her life to increasing Love and Happiness in the world, leading Coaching Programs, Workshops, Retreats, and Teaching Yoga around the world. Read her full bio as well as her class and workshop schedule on her website; discover mantras, kundalini practices, soundbaths and more on her YouTube channel; and stay connected on Instagram and Facebook.