I teach a tiny Kundalini yoga class in my living room. The women who come I know from my children's school and one is a new friend. We do yoga, meditate and chant, and afterward we sit around my kitchen table and share what is going on for us. We drink tea and talk.
This week I was shooting some pictures with the ever-talented Catherine Just for a project I'm creating for Annapurna Living, and as I dropped off my kids at school in the morning, I shouted across the parking lot to few of my friends—would they come be part of the photos, and at the same time do a short meditation I am loving? Three women came over and as we gathered in my living room and sat on our sheep skins and started our yoga and meditating, I had a deep sense of “YES” ... this is the life I crave. The photographs faded to the background and the vibration of the room became one of healing and love.
When we completed the class, we naturally created a circle and started sharing as women have done for centuries. Here we are in Los Angeles, in my living room, creating that sacred circle with an ease and grace that is beyond each of us alone. They were sharing deep. They were not friends—I was the bridge—but their openness and desire to be real and vulnerable was beautiful to witness.
We ended up in my kitchen where I served Chai tea and the sharing continued. There was so much love at that table. There was so much heart and soul and pure beauty. It became crystal clear to me that this is what I love. Creating space for others to be heard and seen. To create the space for healing. To nourish others in simple ways that ultimately nourish me back.
When I was 26, I and a few other women gathered weekly at a friends house for a woman's circle. We shared our dreams with one another and as each of us attained these dreams, it was as if it happened to each of us. When my friends and I were having our babies we chose not to have traditional baby showers and, instead, had baby blessings where we all circled around the mama and created sacred rites of passage for each other. We would gather around the mother-to-be and tell her how much we loved her. We shared stories about her and blessed her with our hopes for her and the baby.
Our babies are growing up and our lives are filled to the brim. We don't see each other as much as we did when we were younger but we still need this coming together in sacred circle. I need this. So I will continue inviting women to my house for class and I will find other ways to create that circle, too. Perhaps it's a message to friend, that I noticed how loving she was with her children today and it inspired me to do the same. I will send a text to Rain my luminous creative director and express my gratitude for her creativity and love and divine inspiration she gives me daily. I will call a friend who came to mind and check in. I will make an extra meal and drop it off at friend's home who needs the support.
As women we have a natural need for community. When we gather together and support one another we have the opportunity to transform our world. Start with yourself—uplift those around you—gather and love.
Create what you crave.