by Nancy Alder
When I was in graduate school and hopelessly single, a friend who had just found love gave me a special gift. After a conversation about how I could not seem to find anyone to connect with romantically, she gave me three rocks. “These are lucky, they helped me find love and now I hope they will do the same for you.” They were not particularly special looking, they had no sparkle, no sharp edges and really were very simple. But I believed her with my heart and soul that they held magic.
The next day I walked into my departmental computer lab and there in front of me was the magic contained in the rocks. He was tall, had really long blond hair and looked right at me with his hazel eyes. And I knew. This year we will have been married 19 years.
Did the rocks that my friend gave me really contain the magic I needed, or did they instead just give me permission to open my eyes to possibility?
Manifesting is a practice which contains a dose of magic and mysticism and ton of being open to what might be. While many pause at the idea of some intervention of the Universe or another non-tangible force, it is clear that they key to making things happen for ourselves is to accept the possibility that they might actually become real. Creating a space for what we want to invite in is as essential as practicing any ritual or magic. My friend had given me rocks which may or may not have contained magic, but it was my total openness to the idea that I might meet someone that allowed me to see my guy for who he was immediately.
There are many ways of bringing things to be in our lives whether it is in the taking action towards a goal, or merely daydreaming of what could be. Deciding that we want things to become part of our lives is the missing piece that often keeps them from coming true. To realize the manifesting of what we want we must fully be available to that which we desire. There are however some valuable tools we can use to help plant and fertilize the seeds of these dreams. Once you have come to an internal space of openness to the idea you wish to manifest, here are a couple of practices that help you focus on them and perhaps give them the edge needed to come to fruition.
Just like the rocks given to me by my friend, many crystals are beneficial in manifesting your dreams. Citrine, fluorite and amethyst help call to attention our visions from places of inner wisdom (amethyst, fluorite) and power/strength (citrine). Hold them, set them near your work space, wear them in pendants or place them under your pillow as you think about what you wish to make true.
Creating a space in your home devoted to your dreams can help you remember them each time you see it. Include statues of deities such as Lakshmi, the Hindu goddess of abundance or Ganesha, the Hindu god of removing obstacles. Add items such as photos of locations you wish to travel, words about which you write, or perhaps a small vision board with themes you want to make a reality. Make this altar a space of your dreams.
The New Moon is a time of setting things into motion. Create a ritual or a practice around the New Moon that focuses on what you wish to bring into your life. It can be particularly powerful to go outside and say out loud what you are manifesting. You send a message to the Universe and to yourself that you are open to them arriving.
Putting your intentions and dreams onto the paper or the page can be a profound experience. Seeing your vision in words offers you the chance to truly visualize it, and in a sense makes it more real than when it is merely in your head. Additionally, having the words on paper often makes people feel accountable to making things happen. So it is possible to increase your own influence on these events just by merely seeing them written down on paper.
I still have the rocks my friend gave me as a reminder that I was open to making my husband part of my life. They are a token of the power I have to manifest my dreams.
About Nancy Alder
YOGI + MOTHER
Nancy Alder is a mom to elves, a yoga teacher and writer in Connecticut. She is a New York editor for Mantra Magazine and writes about the alchemy of yoga, mysticism and motherhood at her site Flying Yogini. She is co-creatrix of the eight limb // life a course in finding your yoga off the mat and everywhere. When not teaching or writing about yoga she explores the enchanted woods with her elves and counts the days until the next snowfall. Connect with Nancy: Flying Yogini | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram