Things I Know

In the middle of my life I am constantly making the commitment to tune in and connect to my soul. All around me, in so many humans, I see a deep grief in the realization that nobody is going to the save the day. No government or superhero is going to sweep in and figure out how to get out of the mess we are in.

With all of these feelings lately and as I live my life each day, I’ve come to realize that these are the things I know:

  1. My body will tell me everything I need to know. It is important for me to listen to her.

  2. Living and parenting within social structures that only care for the individual are not only damaging to all, but they are also no fun. We must all be vigilant to continually step outside the culture of individualism. I recently heard someone say that in America, the concept of “it takes a village” is only a bumper sticker.
     
  3. There is time for being tired and weary.
     
  4. There is a time to rise
     
  5. When we are weary and tired, it helps so much to have a partner or friend who will rise and hold it up. We can’t always hold it up on our own. Sometimes we hold it up for other people. We all do this for each other. This is part of love in action.
     
  6. We all need mentors.
     
  7. When focused on the whole, community takes care of all.
     
  8. Inspired by Paramahansa Yogananda "Seek out good company, company that reminds you of god and the noble things of life." Who and what we surround ourselves with becomes the fabric of our daily lives.
     
  9. The mind will not figure out what you need. Connect to the heart to find what you truly need and then put it into action.  
     
  10. Start again and again. Be flexible with yourself and your surroundings, and especially be flexible with others. Every day is an opportunity for something new, for things to be different, and for you to be the person you admire.  
     

My hope is that all the bits and pieces of my life will be in the flow with the pieces of my heart. I choose integrity in action, in word, and in thought. The lessons in life are everywhere and sometimes that lesson is to let it go and keep on moving forward. Don't forget why you are here, and if you aren’t sure—listen to the quiet and fierce voice within your soul.

Love,
Carrie-Anne

carrie-anne moss with tea

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Carrie-Anne Moss + Kelly Brogan

Last week I sat down with Kelly Brogan to talk about women. We talked about what kind of tools women need today and where we can start with self-care—the kind that actually makes a difference in our life and then in the world. We also talked a little bit about her work which focuses largely on women's health and helping women break their reliance on prescription drugs. Kelly's work is truly amazing and I admire so much the path she has chosen. In this video of our conversation, she shares about how she went from being a high-powered, high-stress MD eating a steady diet of candy every day to where she is now. The work of actually hearing our inner voices can be long and arduous and it looks different for everyone. 

As Kelly shifted into her practice of helping women who were on meds, her waiting list grew to be 2 years long, and so she created an online program called Vital Mind Reset in the attempt to share her advice and program who didn't want to wait 2 years or couldn't fly to New York. She talks about VMR at the end of our conversation for those of you who may be interested. 

 

Learn more about Kelly here

 

Annapurna Woman Rachael Rice

Our Portrait of the Annapurna Woman is an ongoing series featuring divine women who embody the nurturing spirit of Annapurna Living. Today we are excited to welcome artist and educator Rachael Rice.

How do you start your day?

I drink coffee in bed. I don’t look at headlines, but I do check my newsfeed which I curate to be the posts of people I admire and respect, as well as some folks who are outside of my demographic or typical experience. I put a lot of folks who don’t look like me in there. I help get the kids out the door on the days we have them. Notice that what I thought was a temporary result of being tired is now my permanent face, LOL. Take my supplements with a full glass of water. Put some music on, light incense, smash the patriarchy. You know. I've been doing ten sun salutations before diving into email or the news. It's a daily struggle, even moreso lately. But I'm making progress there, prioritizing some morning movement.

What do you do when you are overwhelmed or stressed?

I bring it back to the basics: hydrate, movement, making, gratitude, justice, pizza. Ha! I do have to work on not using food to numb out. I’ve made a lot of progress there, as someone with trauma that shows up as PTSD + disordered eating. I try to go be around trees, if possible. And I lean against them, and try to download my anxiety into the ground. I eat root vegetables and drink water, put my hands in the dirt somehow, or walk barefoot outside. I have my partner just apply pressure to my body by simply lying on me. Plant medicines of various sorts are very helpful. Simple somatic practices like legs up the wall or EFT (tapping) or chanting mantra. Kirsten Hale’s online anxiety + herbalism course has been tremendously helpful lately. Mostly, I try to remember that these feelings are actually a healthy response to a toxic system. I ask for help. I often just need to be alone. Or re-up my service work to get out of my own thought patterns around scarcity: of money, of time, of comfort. Sometimes I try to give comfort and connect to someone whose life looks very different from mine. We can share our comfort. That’s how acts of solidarity are good self-care. And I make myself make. When I'm creating, there's more space inside of myself to handle big feelings.

Art by Rachael Rice

Art by Rachael Rice

What gives you the feeling of true bliss within?

I’d have to say the creative process and justice. Facilitating groups of people who want to make things while also discussing Big Questions is the best. Genuinely connecting with other people, both human and “more-than-human” brings me true bliss. Making things brings me bliss.

WHAT ARE YOU READING RIGHT NOW?

I’ve made a commitment to reading only women of color for maybe ever and ever, but I did recently deviate from that and started to read Debt: The First 5,000 Years by David Graeber, an anarchist activist and Professor of Anthropology at the London School of Economics. That plus Dead Pledges by Annie McClanahan are really helping me connect the dots between personal development, being an artist, capitalism, racial justice + climate change. So I read 100% nonfiction. Also on my nightstand right now is Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer, Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde, and Anarcha-Feminisms: Perspectives on Anarchist Theory magazine by AK Press.

WHAT ARE YOU listening to RIGHT NOW?

DJ Drez and Trae Sevn, Alsarah + The Nubatones, Babeheaven, Strange Familia, Shira, early Kanye, The Root by Magna Carda, and Hard Rain’s A-Gonna Fall as done by Leon Russell. And Solange.

What does nourishment look like to you?

Nourishment looks like saying no to a lot of stuff. Mostly social stuff. I need long, uninterrupted periods of time to be alone with my own thoughts. It’s interesting because the word “nourish” comes from nurse, the one who gives a breast for food. I do things my mom would do, I try to engage in “mothering” of myself and the children who live with me -- by trying to be more gentle, by making my home environment soft and comforting and beautiful. Rose oil and revolution. Service work is nourishing. Justice is an essential nutrient for my well-being. So I’m involved with movements like #BlackLivesMatter, Standing Rock, anti-fascist groups, and houseless folks where I live. Sex, running, stretching, art, music, humor. Humor might be the most nourishing thing of all. It helps me with all the heavier aspects of this particular incarnation.

how do you make space for play?

I make space for play by surrounding myself with really funny people. And I’m a maker, so I play a lot, and when I sell the stuff I make while playing I call it “work.” I’m silly and deeply irreverent. Even when I’ve lived in small spaces, I’ve dedicated big parts of it to making. Spending time with children will make you play, whether you feel like it or not!

Art by Rachael Rice

Art by Rachael Rice

What are some favorite mantras you cling to?

Resistance is fertile.
Keep it weird.
I am whole, I am magic.
I can do hard things, I’ve done harder things that this.
First things first.
I was made for these times.
No one’s ever died from being uncomfortable.
Joy is real.
I have a good heart, I am capable of change.

Please share some words of wisdom you've learned as a direct result of soulful and embodied living.

I’ve learned that being respected is much more important than being liked. Marianne Williamson said, “If what you're saying is always getting applause, you're probably not yet doing the right stuff.” Being spiritual doesn’t mean being above conflict, and it doesn’t mean we need to be allergic to shame. There’s a lot of work to be done in the world to make it a place safe place for everyone, and that will require the dismantling of oppressive structures within ourselves as well as outside ourselves. And so we must cultivate resilience and integrity in the face of shame, of accountability, of calls for reparations, of the times we’ve been called to inhabit. We have a lot of tools and a tremendous amount of resources and collective wisdom. We need to use them for collective liberation, in whatever time we have left together.

 

 


Rachael Rice is a full-time artist, writer, and educator. Her work lies at the crossroads of creative expression, community, justice, teaching, healing and magic. She is white, cis-gendered (she/her), able-bodied, no uterus, has had many queer relationships but is currently living with a man and his two daughters, whom she co-parents part time as a “bonus mom.”

Find Rachael Rice by visiting her website and her shops on Etsy and Society6 as well as on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

The Hunger: Carrie-Anne Moss and Jules Davis

Many months ago, I created a course called Holding Home as part of my Fierce Grace series of courses. For the course, I was joined by my wonderful friend and kitchen healer, Jules Blaine Davis. We created a series of videos for the courses, and today I'm sharing one of them with all of you, because it was so good and because it speaks to so many women. 

A huge part of my work is exactly this: feeding the hunger, creating connection. Connection can be challenging, even though we find ourselves in days packed full of people, text messages, and emails. But true connection is what we need. That's what we hunger for. So how do we feed it? How do you?

Jules also has a Ted Talk that was recently released where she goes even deeper into this topic. You can view the Ted Talk here

Carrie-Anne Moss + Deb Kern

A while ago I was joined by my dear friend Deb Kern for one of my live calls. She answered one woman's question about Epstein Barr Virus, and so I've pulled that part of the video out so that I can share it with you all. To learn more about Deb, please follow her on Instagram or visit her website

You can watch the video clip below. One of my favorite things is what Deb says in her intro, that she helps "women come back into their bodies." We so need that at this time.

 

Love,
Carrie-Anne

carrie-anne moss and deb kern

Note: As Deb Mentions, this is not medical advice. 


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